The worse month was January of last year. It was one of those months that I just knew. I was sure! I woke up on the day and took another test, sure that the test I took the day before was a false negative taken too soon. I had had a horrible day at work the day before, I was stressed and irritable and I needed this. Looking back I put way too much importance on that test, maybe I wasn't ready. I took the test and not only was it negative, my period started before I left the house---definitely a negative for the month! I was upset. Realistically I knew it wasn't the end of the world but in that moment, I was extremely bummed out. I got in my car to head to work, pulled out of our parking garage (crying of course) and I hit a car that was pulling into our building. I was looking but I didn't even see her. I couldn't hold any more in, I just started crying. This woman was what I needed at that moment. She looked at her car, then looked up at me and said “It’s ok, there are worse things in the world” and she gave me the biggest hug. It was exactly what I needed. Before she walked away she said “Whatever it is, things will get better. They always do”. While I was still upset after this, she made me feel so much better. Whoever she was I am grateful to have run into her at the perfect time in my life.
Since there are tons of prego's out there right now, I thought I'd just share what I sent to her in case any of you are looking for suggestions too!
My Favorites and Tips & Tricks:
Rock n' Play: This is a sleeper that you can move around the house. Up until this week, Henley wouldn't sleep anywhere but here. It's at an incline so she loved it if she had any gas or reflux. She hates being flat on her back so this helps immensely. Plus I can move it all around the house and it fits perfectly by my bed.
Aden & Anais Swaddle Blankets: These are bigger than receiving blankets so she doesn't kick her feet out of them and they are made from a really light material, muslin I think, so its not too hot or suffocating which will be nice when it gets hotter. Target sells some that are just Aden and they are the same material (which is great) but they are a smidge smaller, just fyi.
Snuza: This is a baby breathing monitor that clips on their diaper and beeps if they stop breathing. This is a good thing for peace of mind with SIDS. I got it as a gift, not sure if Babies r us sells it. There is also a monitor like this that lays under the crib mattress call the Angle Care. This one has a receiver and beeps if it doesn't sense movement. I like the Snuza better since she can have it clipped on her diaper in the pack n' play, the rock n' play, or even in bed with us. (I never thought I'd be one to sleep with her but sometimes if she'll sleep with me but no where else, I'll take it).
Lily Pads: If you are breastfeeding, these are great. Instead of using pads that catch whatever you leak, these prevent leaking. I haven't worn mine out yet but they are really comfortable and my friend loves them.
Wubbanub Pacifier: Search this on Amazon, there are tons of different animals. At first when I gave her a paci, she would spit it out and it would fall down in her seat or fall away from her. With this, if she spits out the paci, it stays right near her and she is able to get it back in her mouth most of the time, plus it's SO adorable!
All of the Aveeno baby stuff is amazing (lotion and bath washes). Desitin diaper rash medicine works great but it smells like fish (there is cod liver oil in it). Since I discovered that, we have been using Burt Bee's as a barrier cream when she has diaper rash since it has zinc oxide in it. For everyday use, we have been using Earth Mama Angle Baby Bottom Balm and I absolutely love it, plus it's cloth diaper friends---bonus!
Puj Tub: This is nice because it's made from a soft material and it stores flat, unlike most tubs. I really love this one. Fits perfectly in my sink and she loves it.
When you register for a swing, make sure it has a plug and not just batteries.
Buy Gripe Water and Gas Drops: The minute she gets hiccups we give her a little Gripe Water (way less than the package recommends for a dosage) and they stop immediately. She gets them a lot and they wake her up---no good! Also the gas drops are pretty quick at calming her if she's having tummy troubles.
Wipe Warmer: Some say this is a complete waste but if we use cold wipes on her in the middle of the night she wakes right up, the warmer we use is for cloth wipes but the same company has one for normal disposable wipes also. Love this.
We have the Skip Hop Bento diaper bag and really love it. There are tons of great bags out there, this is just a side note.
For carriers, I got the Moby Wrap which has tons of great reviews. When I get it wrapped correctly, she loves it but its difficult to wrap and takes a while. By the time she was fussing and I got it wrapped, she was in full on screaming mode. Plus I wasn't confident I could wrap it well enough to keep her safe. I just ordered the Moby Go which is brand new and their version of the Bjorn, not sure how it is just yet. We got the Bjorn as a hand-me-down from a friend but it places all of the weight on your shoulder and starts hurting your back after a while, plus I've heard it can cause hip displaysia in the babies since their legs hang, their legs should be supported all of the way to the knees. I've had a bunch of my friends really love the Ergo Carrier and it can be used from birth (with an infant insert) to like 45 lbs.
Lanolin: Get this, get a few of these! I had no idea that when I breastfed, even if she has the best latch ever, that my nipples would hurt. They hurt SO bad for 2 weeks that I dreaded feeding her and this lanolin was the best stuff. I put it on after every time she nursed and it helped heal any cracks or pains. I'm telling you this because I was blindsided lol. I always heard it shouldn't hurt if you are doing it right----not! :-)
We have the Baby Jogger City Micro (Target's version of the City Mini) and we really love it. We ordered the car seat adapter for it and our Maxi Cosi Mico Car Seat fits perfectly.
Of course get a boppy pillow, this frees up your hands while nursing and she lays on it on the couch next to me sometimes.
Make sure to get a play gym for the floor. At about 4 weeks she started doing tummy time and really loving it, plus it gives you are moment to breathe and not hold her continuously.
Baby Bargains is a great reference for checking safety ratings of the big purchases. Also don't read What to Expect---they use scare tactics. One of the best resources for me was thebump.com. They have message boards by month of your due date so everyone on there is going through the same things. I still go on there for questions for her now that she's here. I highly recommend that.
These are just my thoughts and opinions and things I have learned in the short six weeks of being a mom. I'm sure I'll look back at these soon and have learned new and better things that work but for now this is what I love.
Any of you agree or disagree? Anything to add? Thanks for stopping by!!
- Not being able to paint my toes, shave my legs, pee into a cup without peeing on my hands
- Bumping my stomach into the grocery cart, my desk at work, the sliding glass doors (since I never opened them wide enough)
- HEARTBURN! I do not miss this at all. I should let you all know that I had heartburn the whole.entire.time. I had it from the first trimester all of the way to while I was actually pushing. That's right---I had heartburn while I was actually pushing her out!
- Not being able to have caffeine, sushi, lunch meat, Excedrin
- Not being able to run long distances and outside
- Not being able to hug my husband comfortably! (I have been loving the ability to hug Teddy lately!)
By the time I was awake and up and moving around I had slight period cramps which I assumed were Braxton Hicks contractions. I hadn't felt any of these before so I wasn't totally sure but I promised Teddy I would call the doctor's office as soon as they opened just to make sure. Around 8:30, I called the on-call nurse and she said since they were so mild, they were probably just Braxton Hicks and to continue to monitor them and if they got more intense or came with blood to call back.
Lately at work I have been bombarded with meetings trying to catch everyone up to speed on what's been going on and just trying to get things in a good spot before maternity leave. Tuesday was no exception. I started out the day with my weekly meeting with my team to catch up on anything that is going on. We mostly spent this time making sure all was in line. I had a few other meetings including one in a different building. As we were driving the golf cart to that meeting, I felt the contractions were getting stronger and stronger. After we got back from that meeting, I had about 30 minutes before the next meeting so I decided to start timing them. (I used an app called Sprout--I loved this app and highly recommend it throughout the pregnancy) At this point the contractions were 30-45 seconds long and about 9 minutes apart. I still wasn't convinced this was labor.
My 10am "meeting" actually turned out to be a surprise baby shower thrown by the Finance department for myself and two others that are due in January (perfect timing eh?). During this time, the contractions were getting more and more intense. Someone actually asked how I was feeling and I responded that I may be having contractions right now :-)
When she was born, she was alert and immediately placed on my chest for an hour of skin to skin contact and breastfeeding. She latched immediately and I got to see her awake and alert. She nursed for a full 30 minutes. I love that my hospital has the "Golden Hour" of skin to skin contact for baby and family to bond. I love that she was so willing to nurse right away and I think the Golden Hour really contributes to that bonding time.
My husband and I were there in awe of this little life. We made this little human and she is perfect!
Miss anything? Being comfortable still.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope, I've definitely been blessed in this area.
Have you started to show yet: Yes and that is a total understatement!
Gender: Girl, Henley Nicole!
Labor Signs: None. I haven't had any braxton hicks and I am a little nervous I won't know when labor actually starts.
Belly Button in or out? It's almost out---I think I am one sneeze away from an outtie.
Wedding Rings On or Off? Off and on a chain on my necklace. They fit in the mornings but are way too snug for me to attempt to wear them all day long.
Looking forward to: My doctor's appointment tomorrow. I am so curious if she has dropped or progressed at all. I am totally aware that even if I am dilated 1 cm that it doesn't necessarily mean anything but I'd still like to know.
Tonight was the Christmas party for my husband's work so here is a picture we took there.
I also got this little mini jean skirt and striped onesie (I'm a sucker for stripes). I got this in a 3-6 months so come spring, she will be sporting this adorable little outfit!
The best part was everything was 30% off this weekend! Score!
I hope are having a great weekend---I got a facial and a prenatal massage and both were amazing! Enjoy the rest of it---they go so quickly!
As many of you know, I am Type A and love being organized. I have an Excel spreadsheet with all of the items I wanted to pack and used that as a guide while packing tonight. I pinned tons of various sites on Pinterest for suggested hospital bags but none were perfect for what I was thinking I'll need. The other day while slow at work, I went through them all and compiled my "perfect list" for the diaper bag, labor bag, postpartum bag, and the dad's bag based on what others had packed. I have it printed out and everything is not yet packed that I need to grab before we leave the house is highlighted, that way Teddy can grab these items in case I am not quite up to it.
Diaper bag first!
Miss anything? Being comfortable and being able to reach my toes---oh and I miss the ability to get off of the couch quickly.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope, I've definitely been blessed in this area.
Have you started to show yet: Yes, especially considering the comments I have received this week consist of "are you having twins?", "you look like you have a basketball under your shirt", and "you look like you're ready to pop".
Gender: Girl, Henley Nicole!
Labor Signs: None.
Belly Button in or out? Not an outie yet but it's even more flat than before, did not think that was possible.
Exercise: We have walked around downtown quite a bit! It's a great time to get some exercise in and to chat with hubs.
Looking forward to: Meeting Henley! It's getting close! I can't wait!!!
Have a great week!